Developing & Maintaining Healthy Habits!

Hey y’all! I hope the winter is treating you guys well. Where I live it’s finally getting chilly and I’m excited to break the peppermint tea out. Who am I kidding, I already broke that out a looong time ago.

Anyhoo, one of my goals for the rest of December (at least) is to develop and maintain as many healthy habits and behaviors as possible. The school “year” enabled me to give various excuses for taking shortcuts when it came to health; i.e. “I’m just sooo tired”, “I’m too stressed to do that”, “I totally don’t have time or energy for that”. While I was kept pretty busy, 85% of the time I was simply slacking off- which isn’t cool because I should treat my body right! Our bodies are our temples, as people say. We should practice good health and well being as our religion, and celebrate and show gratitude for the wondrous activities our bodies let us do.

So, now that I have zero excuses to try and shift my focus from health, I’m challenging myself to research on the healthiest things people can do for themselves. I’ll be adding to my (hopefully massive) list of healthy To Do’s as the days go by, but here is the prototype so far:

❀ Drink tea once a day

❀ Listen to feel-good music

❀ Devote an hour to expressing emotions in a creative way (ex: painting, mandalas, sketching, writing, etc.)

❀ Sing (if the day permits)

❀ Brush my teeth twice a day AND floss

❀ Spend a min. of 20 minutes outside every day

❀ Set aside 5-10 minutes of meditation

❀ Break a sweat (i.e. cardio, running, yoga, etc.)

❀ Drink 8 glasses of water a day

❀ Eat a healthy, balanced diet

❀ Stretch!

❀ Pray and remember what I am thankful for

❀ Take care of my poor, dry feet

❀ Moisturize (because having healthy skin is important to stay sickness-free)

❀Be kind to my face and NEVER sleep with makeup on

❀ Read for 30+ minutes

Phew, and that’s just the ones I could name off the top of my head! What about you- what are the things you do every day to keep up your good health? Can you add anything to my list? What is your favorite health routine?

Much love & hugs to you all.

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Monthly Favorites of December

Hello there, lovelies of the internet! I hope y’all are having incredible weekends to match your incredible selves. I’v been rather productive and Violet-ish this month so I thought a small Favorites post would be a good way to get back in the swing of daily vlogging. With further adieu~

Scent: Peppermint or Sweet Mint, because it’s chilly out and why the heck not?

Book: I finally decided to read The Help by Kathryn Stockett after seeing the movie (which, by the way, was pretty dang great). I haven’t finished it yet but I like it so far and recommend it to anyone unsure of what to read next. Seems promising!

Music: *warning, some of these may be too catchy to escape* “Close Your Eyes”- Meghan Trainor. “Part Two”- Paramore. “Riptide”- Vance Joy. “All I Want For Christmas (cover)”- Fifth Harmony. & “Can You Feel My Heart”- Bring Me The Horizon.

Word: Lovelies/Lovely.

Color: Soft, light, and pastel colors!

Power Outfit: Comfy and colorful boots, light-washed skinny jeans, a bright sweater, my Trinity Knot ring, and the precious moon and stars necklace I recently got. (Most other power outfits to default to all black and grey, with skulls and creep aplenty).

Snack: Caesar-flavored pea snap crisps, apple slices with peanut butter, or fresh bread with olive oil and Parmesan.

Mantra: “What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create.” – Buddha.

Articles/Blog Posts: http://www.xojane.com/relationships/how-to-love-yourself

http://justinemusk.com/2014/10/19/heroines-journey/

http://www.buzzfeed.com/expresident/all-cats-go-to-heaven#.fd8q75r4gq

http://www.buzzfeed.com/floperry/no-thank-you-horrible-deep-sea

& http://dangerdame.com/2014/12/11/3-unconventional-ways-to-rock-out-the-last-days-of-2014/

I hope the day is treating you right! What are your monthly favorites? Share them in the comments! Much love and loads of good vibes to ya.

Beauty isn’t skin deep, but sometimes it’s easiest to start there.

All of us are on our own journeys to self-love, self-acceptance, and true confidence. We are different in many ways and so our voyages will always be a little different. For some people, learning to love their entire selves is easiest done by starting with admiring our inner-selves. Some of us have a more challenging time loving our outsides, so we work from the inside out. But for others, it’s much easier to begin from the outside in. In my experience thus far, it is a tad bit easier to start with showing love to my outer-self and then working my way in. It’s not bad to do this.

There is no wrong way to love your whole self, ‘kay?

Here is a short guide for those who are on the second path. Enjoy; I hope it treats you well and helps you transition into a more confident, loving person. 🙂

Wear what you want to wear. Don’t listen to anyone who decrees what is flattering and what is not. You know what’s flattering to your body shape? Wear whatever clothes you fucking like. If you’re a bigger girl, don’t take people’s bullshit about not being able to rock horizontal stripes or that you should always wear black or belts or something. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re too short for flat shoes or too tall for high heels. There is no such thing. the first step in rocking your physique is to dress it in ways that make YOU comfortable, confident, and feeling like the hot babe you are. Wear what you fucking want and you will always look good.

Adorn yourself if you’d like. If you don’t like to accessorize, that’s fine and dandy. Whatever makes you feel pretty- whether that’s no jewelry, tattoos, piercings, and makeup or wearing all of the above- must be adorned. You feel great in a bold red lip and suicide rolls in your hair? Wear that shit. You feel best when bare-faced and wearing minimal jewelry? Rock it! Whatever your style is, embrace it and don’t ever let anyone (no matter how stylish they seem) tell you it doesn’t look enough/too much. You go ahead and do your thing, girlie. Rock that glittery nail polish or those hoop earrings. You look fantastic.

Leave the house knowing that you look like a billion bucks. Ain’t nobody got time to dissect their appearance and wonder if their style is okay for this world. Walk with an air of confidence: keep your head held high, gaze steady, and breathe easy knowing you look your best because you feel like you look your best. The only person whose opinions concerning your looks matter are YOU and your doctor. Ignore anyone else who tries to tell you what is healthy and unhealthy. Don’t let them convince you that you aren’t trendy enough or that you’re too trendy. Work it girl. You look totes-mah-goats fabulous.

Wishing you a marvelous day. ♥

Being your fabulous self & rocking it.

I think there’s been quite a bit of confusion regarding self-esteem (and women’s self-esteem in particular). As someone working to empower both herself and others, it can be challenging to balance love for your physical self and love for your inner-self. As women in this society we are taught from an early age to be pretty little things- we are told we are by nature something of great physical beauty, pretty aesthetic, and we must forever strive to be youthful and beautiful. On the other hand, I’ve noticed a decent portion of Third Wave Feminists insisting that any focus- no matter how small or rare- dedicated to admiring and accepting one’s appearance is purely selfish vanity and something to be avoided entirely. That we as women have so long faced the beauty standards imposed upon us, demanding we fit the attractive ideal of our societies; that we should be ashamed of ourselves for even regarding ourselves as “pretty” because being “pretty” is such a shallow concept.

As someone trying hard every day to love herself and teach others to love themselves, it’s hard for me to strike the perfect balance between these two conflicting theories. I don’t take what I do lightly. How dare I insinuate that you are beloved partially because you’re conventionally attractive? But I believe it’s just as important to question how I dare demand you not find your physique beautiful.

Newsflash~ It is 100% okay and acceptable and even GOOD to like how you look.

Let me repeat that.

IT IS GOOD AND OKAY TO THINK THAT YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE ON THE OUTSIDE. IT IS OKAY TO BELIEVE YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND GORGEOUS AND ROCKING THAT NICE ASS.

There is nothing wrong with loving your physical self. You are not vain, or shallow, or doing a disservice to women everywhere- you are being a badass bitch full of love, compassion, and confidence. Fuck anyone who says otherwise.

And while we’re speaking of screwing anyone trying to restrict you, You are NOT your body.

You are not limited to outer-beauty. You are a tangle of beautiful characteristics and inner-qualities and your beauty cannot and will not ever be measured by your weight, shape, height, skin tone, the color of your eyes, the waves/kink/straightness of your hair! You are not just a pretty thing.

You are NOT just a pretty thing.

You are so, so much more than that.

So while loving your appearance is very vital to your self-love journey, remember that you are also a stunning creature on the inside. Your every pore seeps beauty. However, you are also beautiful because of the way you snort when you laugh, and that quirky thing you do with your hands while speaking, and the love and empathy you show for other beings.

Your beauty is unlimited. So should your self-love be.

50 Ways To Cheer Up Your Inner-Grump

It’s okay to be grumpy sometimes. Shitty things happen and occasionally we don’t even need unfortunate circumstances in order to feel under the weather. And while it’s totally A-Okay to not feel good all the time, it truly does help to be able to cheer yourself back up. Whether it’s enough to get you on your A-game or simply make you less likely to hurt yourself and do something you will regret later on, it’s all good! Any step in the right direction is a great thing. Here is a list I’ve compiled of 50 techniques I’ve used in the past that have succeeded in raising my spirits. I promise they’re all positive, healthy ideas. (:

1. Give somebody a hug. 2. Bake something yummy. 3. Cuddle with a furry friend. 4. Read a good book. 5. Take a warm shower or a bubble bath. 6. Watch one of your favorite movies. 7. Play Uno with your family/friends (or your favorite game). 8. Volunteer your time for a good cause. 9. Clean the house/your room. 10. Gulp down a glass of water. 11. Take a walk outside. 12. Visit with friends and loved ones. 13. Wear super comfy clothes. 14. Write down all of the things you’re grateful for today. 15. Get crafty and create something. 16. Light a candle in your favorite scent. 17. Wear your favorite perfume. 18. Pamper yourself~ Use a face/body scrub, face mask, hair mask, body butter, etc. 19. Compliment a stranger. 20. Compliment yourself. 21. Exercise and get that heart rate up. 22. Have a delicious snack. 23. Paint your nails in your favorite color. 24. Go on an adventure. 25. Cheer someone else up. 26. Listen to music that makes you happy. 27. Smile. 28. Dress up in the outfit that makes you feel like you can conquer the world. 29. Get out of the house. 30. Cook a beloved meal. 31. Draw something. 32. Watch silly videos. 33. Grab your favorite Starbucks drink. 34. Buy yourself some flowers to brighten up your room. 35. Laugh as much as you can. 36. Have a good cry. 37. Take a nap. 38. Call up a friend. 39. Daydream about happy things. 40. Eat something that’s good for you. 41. Draw flowers/shapes on your arms. 42. Enjoy a cup of tea. 43. Pay fun Interwebs games. 44. Relax on something comfortable. 45. Try a different makeup look or hairstyle. 46. Blow bubbles. 47. Tell a stupid joke. 48. Go exploring the town. 49. Write in a journal. 50. Try something new.

One Hundred Things.

Happy Monday, everybody! It’s been a gorgeous couple days now. The grass is wet from rain, the sun is shining upon the face of the world, and this summer breeze is divine. Seems like a recipe for a peaceful day, eh?

To help add to this bright and lovely day, let’s get some gratitude up in this bitch. ;D This is as much an exercise for me as it is for you- I DARE you to whip out your Radical Self Love Bible/Art Journal/Diary and write down one-freaking-hundred things you are thankful for. Said things can be: people, memories, places, objects, creatures, feelings, etc. Hell, write it down using your favorite color pen! Doodle the heck out of these pages, man!

(TL;DR: Go H.A.M on this, por favor.)

Just for convenience’s sake- and the fact that I’m in the mood to type up a storm- I shall put my list right here. Maybe it will spark some ideas in you, who knows? What are the top five things you are grateful for today?

1. My laptop 2. My Mermie 3. My family 4. Fat cats 5. Chubby puppies 6. My friends 7. The rest of my loved ones 8. Silly straws 9. The Interwebs! 10. Green tea ice cream 11. My home 12. My crystal necklaces 13. This number (It’s my lucky one c: ) 14. Netflix 15. My phone 16. My bb Loaches 17. Summer days like this 18. Summer in general 19. Finding a journal that feels oh-so-right and that you can’t wait to write in 20. The fact that MICHAELS CRAFT STORE SELLS FUCKING GRUMPY CAT PLUSHIES eeeeeep 21. New videos from my favorite Youtubers 22. Trying new foods/adventures 23. The satisfaction one receives when cleaning their ears with Q-tips 24. Comfy/soft headbands 25. Having the house stocked with enough (and healthy, woo!) food 26. Crafting with my mom 27. The last weekend I hung out with my niece. She’s damn precious 28. Distancing myself from negative people and situations 29. Finding a new face wash that seems to be very promising 30. A warm cup of tea in the morning 31. Kittens that cuddle 32. Giant bath tubs that can fit more than one person and are more of a Jacuzzi than anything 33. Smiling! 34. Finding new body-positive pins on Pinterest 35. Fresh Peaches from the Farmer’s Market 36. French Macaroons that melt in your mouth 37. Waking up to C’s dog attacking me with love and smooches 38. Cuddles 39. Spending time with my Merm 40. Kettle corn 41. Catchy and positive songs 42. Having great concerts to look forward to 43. My purple/pink Cone-flowers being soooo in bloom 44. Knowing I’m almost halfway done with this list 😉 45. Actually-funny vines 46. Warm showers 47. Being brave enough to squash that monstrous bug in C’s bathroom that was trying to kill us 48. Fuzzy socks 49. Finding a new food that tastes yummy- bonus points if it’s healthy too 50. My new Happiness Jar (Will D.I.Y it up in next post) 51. When your hair feels hella soft right after you deep condition it 52. Purple hair 53. Candles 54. Tiny LED flashlights 55. Not having to wake up to an alarm 56. Knowing I don’t start school until super late August 😀 57. Online games 58. Accomplishing the stressful tasks on my daily To Do List 59. Kind strangers 60. Homemade Lemon Bars 61. Moments of utter silliness 62. Feeling in the mood to write again 63. A large, chilled glass of water 64. Feeling more relieved after days of relatively high Anxiety 65. Working on bad habits 66. Ridiculously comfortable and soft sleepy-time clothes 67. Petting furry animals 68. Seeing C’s mysterious third cat, Bubbles 69. Creepy kids’ movies/T.V shows 70. Peeing when you’ve been waiting forever to use the bathroom 71. Sleepovers that go well 72. Facing my fears 73. All that I have accomplished in my life so far 74. Glitter 75. Pretty nail polish 76. Super cozy beds 77. Disney movies 78. The extremely soft and wonderful couches in my basement 79. When I keep my room clean 80. Having the house to myself 81. Receiving genuine compliments 82. Modern medicine 83. My health insurance plan 84. My good health 85. My body 86. My soul and spirit 87. My determination to push through hard times 88.Positive thinking/thoughts 89. Decorating my room 90. Visiting the beach for the first time in years 91. A fully charged battery 92. A working freezer and refrigerator 93. Dancing 94. Seeing my loved ones being happy 95. That I’m alive 96. Having safe access to water and electricity 97. Snuggling a freshly dried blanket or comforter on a chilly day 98. Times of relaxations and rest 99. New episodes of Adventure Time 100. Happy dreams. ❤

Self-love workshop?

Happy Monday, precious nuggets. While searching for a better, more stable, state of mind I’ve returned to the basics of self-care. Self-help worksheets were a huuuge thing at the hospital and I find that- with the right mood, of course- filling them out brings me a sense of familiarity and comfort. Jessica Mullen has some pretty cool ones that I stumbled upon. Check her out if you’d like: http://jessicamullen.com/tag/worksheets/ . There are a few that you can download for free; I’ve even got my Mom doing them. 🙂

I thought I would create a little form/self-love worksheet myself. I’ll show ya’ll my answers and I would love for you to try it out and tell me your thoughts. You guys are important and I’m always up for feedback!

Top 5 awesome things your body lets you do: 1. Run long distances 2. Walk around the neighborhood with my best friend J 3. Feel the ridiculously soft material of my comfy throw blanket 4. Splash around at the beach 5. Smile at loved ones & share a laugh.

Favorite physical feature(s): My glorious (and healthy) hair, my hips, my booty, my eyes, and my strong legs.

Moment when you felt really good about your body/strength/physique: The first time I ran five-six miles!

Favorite body-positive quote: “Be careful what you say about your body, because she’s listening to every word.”~ Lisa M. Hayes

Ways you can treat your body: Stay hydrated, LUSH bubble baths, yoga, back massage from a friend, hella body butter, & eating healthy, yummy foods.

Top 5 amazing things your mind can do: 1. Solve riddles/jokes 2. Create words that become sentences and speech 3. Dream & daydream 4. Learn from my mistakes 5. Hold fantastic, irreplaceable memories.

Favorite personality quirks/characteristics: My weird “granny voice” that I do to sound extra cute, my sense of humor, my empathy and sympathy, my resilience & determination, and my love for myself and others.

Moment when you felt really good about your mind’s capacity to learn and grow/inner-self: A few days ago when a friend said I was so adorable I could “make ‘Little Shit’ sound like the cutest thing ever said”.

Favorite quote about inner-beauty: “Wake up every morning and tell yourself you’re a badass bitch from hell and that no one can fuck with you, then don’t let anybody fuck with you.”

Ways you can treat your mind & soul: Enjoyable puzzles, reading, writing, naps! , debates, and doing things that make me happy.

I hope you guys enjoyed this simple worksheet on appreciating yourself. Rock on with your bad selves, babes. You deserve incredibly good things. ♥