A little inspiration for those learning to love your inner & outer self. ♥

Hey there, beautiful! I was enjoying having the house to myself- *ahem* karaoke time *cough* – and I came across the song “Try” by Colbie Caillat. It gave me absolute goosebumps, or as my poetry professor says, “chillbumps”. Suddenly I felt  a yearning inside- damn, I wish that songs like this had been around when I was a preteen, and I hope that my two nieces grow up to love themselves. I try my best to raise them as strong and confident girls but as an aunt who isn’t with them 24/7, I can only do so much. On the bright side, I can always work on raising myself. I’m still in the process. Maybe I always will be, but I’m kind of okay with that. As long as you’re learning, a day is never wasted.

And what better way to show myself love than to indulge in some inspiration and share with my Interweb fellows? Here are some passionate and incredibly positive videos for y’all on this Sunday morning:

♥ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GXoZLPSw8U8

♥ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DnDgSsWnwwE

♥ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ODnMaf0rB4c

I’m also going to challenge you to do something~ Take out a piece of paper and your favorite writing utensil. Write down 5 things about your physical appearance that you love, and ten things about your inner self that you love. I know you can do it.

Much love and tons of good vibes,
Violet XO

Some things to brighten your day or teach you something new!

Hello, all! Happy Easter to those who celebrate it- I hope your holiday is filled to the brim with joy and good memories. Today I wanted to share some of the cool things on the Interwebs I’ve found recently. I hope you enjoy this list- I even included a few of my favorite things this Spring.

✿ http://galadarling.com/article/feeling-burned-out-ask-yourself-this-one-simple-question/

✿ http://mysticmedusa.com/2013/05/fenging-up/

✿ http://dangerdame.com/2015/03/30/how-to-be-magnetic-4-ways-to-rev-up-your-magnetism/

✿ http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-18169/how-to-stay-motivated-when-youre-not-in-the-mood-to-do-anything.html

✿ http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-18030/are-you-sabotaging-your-authentic-self-heres-how-to-stop.html

✿ http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-17999/walking-boosts-brainpower-4-other-reasons-to-exercise-every-day.html

✿ http://everydayroots.com/how-to-get-rid-of-bad-breath

✿ Pretty much any Dog Whisperer or My Cat From Hell episode, ever.

✿ http://www.seventeen.com/health/a29642/ways-to-be-instantly-happier/

✿ http://www.seventeen.com/health/advice/a21913/boost-body-confidence/

✿ Light or Pastel colors.

✿ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hnT7ZDubj94

✿ Raising some gorgeous indoor plants.

That’s it babes- I hope you enjoyed the links and learned something interesting.

Much love from my house to yours,

Violet XO

Inspiring/Self-love Room Decor!

Happy Sunday, friends! I hope Spring is treating you well wherever you are (and for those entering Fall, I hope you’re staying cozy). Around here the weather is awfully gloomy, but oh well. I’ve been rather busy with work and school- Midterms, wahh ;-;- so this post may be a bit short.

Part of loving yourself is remembering to surround yourself with positivity and motivation. Since unless I’m on break or have a day off of work I don’t have much time, a very simply way to do this is to create a safe and loving place where you can feel good and get shit done. For me, that place is my bedroom. Here are a few easy and cheap ideas to help you adorn your space and surround yourself with cheer and kindness:

Re-framing Your Thoughts

I’ve made this particular decor a few times now. I love it- it truly livens up my room and also sends me a positive message! All you’ll need is a picture frame or two, glue/glue dots, a print out of one of your favorite motivational quotes, and any other decorations you might like. I bought my two frames from a local thrift store (Goodwill) so in total I probably spent four or five dollars. I threw out the stock photos that came with them and removed the backing of the frames. Then, I surfed the web for a pretty quote that resonated with me and my goals (one of my favorite places to find one is http://ed-free-maggie.tumblr.com/ ) and printed it out. I simply cut the printout to fit the frame, glued it onto the backing, decorated the frame as I saw fit, and fastened the clasps. Boom! You’ve now got a gorgeous decor that emanates some hella good vibes.

Beautiful Banner

This simple project is something I’ve been seeing all over Pinterest and Youtube. All you’ll need are several pieces of colored paper/cardstock, scissors, a hole puncher, some ribbon or string, a sharpie/marker, and whatever decorations you see fit. Here is an easy-to-follow tutorial:

Personally, I made one that says “SPREAD THE LOVE” on various shades of pink cardstock. I even used some gold ink and tiny hearts to make it look even more cute. It’s a really easy DIY that not only makes you feel good but also makes your wall look incredible.

Let me know in the comments if you guys would be interested in more self-love-inspired room decor and I’ll be sure to cook some up. 🙂 If you try these out, I hope they turn out amazingly.

Much love & good vibes,

Violet XO

Oh, Spring, it’s been too long!

To my fellow Pagans or Wiccans, merry meet and happy Ostara! It’s so exciting to welcome Spring after such a harsh Winter. I’m wishing you all bright blessings and a joyful celebration. For those who are unaware of Ostara and are curious about it, here are a few links:

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/themediawitches/2015/03/you-call-it-easter-we-call-it-ostara/

http://paganwiccan.about.com/od/ostarathespringequinox/p/Ostara_History.htm

It’s a very blessed holiday considering it is also a New Moon tonight AND a solar eclipse! I’m going to deck myself out in pastels and flowers, and plants some new seeds today. Then, when I go to work, I’m going to do my best to be as cheerful and positive as possible (and maybe grab a little cake for my friends and family).

Blessed be, y’all. I hope your day is incredible.

Much love & Good vibes,

Violet XO

A reminder for ~YOU~!

Hey there, darlings. This message is made special just for you- all of you. If you’ve been waiting for a sign, or some sort of comfort from the Universe, this is it. You are unbreakable. You may bend underneath the pressures of life, but you will never be broken. Your scars are proof that you can overcome anything. You have immeasurable strength, courage, bravery, and beauty. Beautiful isn’t the most important thing for a human to be, but know that you are gorgeous- a stunner inside and out- and it is totally okay to feel that way about yourself. It’s okay to feel beautiful, and it is not selfish or vain to do so.

You deserve to love yourself. How can you help others if you’re not well yourself? “Once we acknowledge and accept the good in us we can spread the good in the world” (if someone knows who first said this quote, please let me know in the comments below). Once you light a spark of love and compassion in your own heart, it will be much stronger and brighter; it will truly help you spread that love to others.

Treat yourself kindly, whether you’re celebrating a raise or feeling disappointed in yourself over a recent failure. You deserve your love and care 100% of the time. If you had a child, would you only love them when they behaved their very best? No, even though they may be difficult or challenging for us, we still love and care for them. Why is it so easy for us to love other people, in all their imperfect glory, but so hard for us to do ourselves the same favor?

Love yourself. Love others. Give yourself a break and rest when you know you need to. If you just took a few steps back, reflect on what went wrong and see what you can learn from it. Let it catapult you towards your dreams and desires. “It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop” (Confucius). Celebrate all your victories, no matter how small. Take a couple risks and learn to listen to yourself, so you can better listen to others. Go after what you really want.

Your strength is unfathomable, your courage untouchable, and your beauty undeniable.

I hope this small letter gives you a little more hope and peace to hold on to. I hope you accomplish every single one of your dreams.

Wishing you the best & lots of love,

Violet XO

Tips on psyching yourself up for a shift or work day!

Happy Friday, y’all! I hope your weekend is as fabulous as you (which is, like, super fab) and you accomplish any and all of your goals. I only work one day this weekend so I’m pretty excited to have time to complete my homework for the upcoming week and clean house. My niece is staying with us this weekend and I have tons of fun things for the two of us to do. I try to spend as much time with her as possible, since I work during the weekends and that’s the only time she visits us.

Speaking of work, I mentioned last week that I would post up a list of the ways I get myself in a positive and more relaxed state of mind before heading out to my job, so here it is: eight tips I’ve learned to use when I’m working and can guarantee some stress.

Have filling, nutritious meals. I love me some snacks and junk food, but I do my best to avoid them when I know it’s going to be a long day. So I make sure to have decent-sized meals (pretty much whatever I know I’ll be home for) that are packed with the fuel my body needs. For example, having some nuts, whole grain toast or tortilla, almond milk, a side of fruit, etc. You can get really creative with how you’re going to treat your body kindly; there is a plethora of healthy meal ideas on the internet. On days where I stick with this goal, I not only feel more energized (and therefore better equipped to work my shift) but also happier and less grumpy.

Power Poses. I already wrote a post about Power Poses so I’ll keep this short. Do them for at least 2 minutes a day, every day. Especially when you have work. It really does help to keep you as stress-free as possible. Bonus: it makes you feel confident!

Sweat out the nervousness. When we’re busy, we tend to forgo the 30 minutes of exercise that we should be doing every day. I get it, I’m still working on finding a routine that works with me and my schedule. But I’ve noticed I perform best when I’ve had a long session of Yoga or even just a 15 minute cardio routine beforehand. It helps you release some of your tension and will also make you more awake and ready to do your best.

Stay hydrated. Yes, just because you work doesn’t mean you get to skip out on hydrating yourself! 😉 Drinking eight glasses of good ol’ H2O will keep you healthy ~and~ put you in a better mood. Studies have shown that sometimes we’re bitter grumps simply because we’re dehydrated. It’s hard to stay cheerful when you’re thirsty. Read more about it here: http://healthymonday.syr.edu/blog/student-voice/drinking-water-will-improve-your-life.html

Make room for Me Time. Whatever Me Time means to you, just do it. You need to make the time for yourself to relax and be at peace- otherwise you’ll go crazy and become too stressed to function properly. For me, that means popping a lemon pound cake-scented wax melt into my melt warmer, playing music that speaks to my soul, drinking a big cup of warm tea, and dicking around on the internet. Everybody requires some R & R. You deserve this time, okay?

Keep track of non-work-related chores you need to do. There’s something strangely comforting about writing up a daily To Do list. Of course, it’s also incredibly satisfying to cross those duties off! Keeping a small To Do list with important non-work things you have to complete will make sure you don’t fall behind- which will just mean more stress for you- and give you that lovely feeling of knowing you kicked the day’s ass.

Stay inspired. Joel Osteen said, “When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside.” This quote is 110% truth. It is not other people’s jobs to keep you motivated, it is yours. Do whatever you need to do; find that inspiration, look for more, and work at it every damn day. Your happiness and inspiration is purely yours to worry about. Keep an inspiration Pinterest board, tape up motivational words on your walls, etc. Always be seeking and soaking in that inspiration.

Lastly, remember why you started. Why are you in this position- are you getting your foot in the door of the career world of your dreams? Testing the waters? Are you doing this for some much-needed income? Do you usually enjoy your work but hate the stress it comes with? Reminding yourself of your reasons for doing this job will add fuel to your inner-fire and keep you going strong. You can do this.

I hope these little tricks help you as much as they’ve been helping me. Let me know in the comments down below what your personal tips are for psyching yourself up for a workday.

Much love and positive vibes,

Violet XO

Using Color To Help Yourself

Hello, beautiful! I feel like it’s been forever since I posted and I’ve got a bit of a brilliant life update for y’all. I’m officially employed! Yep, I started just a week ago and am starting to get into the routine of things. It’s quite a lot of work, to be honest, but the environment is very cheerful and positive so overall I enjoy it. I feel so blessed to have a job. I’m a shy/nervous person naturally and this job happens to involve a lot of social interactions. Next weekend I’ll make sure to post up something about how I psych myself up for my shifts, how I manage to stay relaxed despite a stressful schedule, and any other tricks I’ve learned so far.

Now, let’s dive deep into this week’s topic: colors and their power. By power, I’m specifically referring to the symbolism of various colors; i.e. the associations and meanings we have assigned to each of them. I’ve mentioned before how symbolism can help you achieve goals, but here I’m going to go much more into detail and focus on just color symbolism. Here is a relatively average guide to colors and their meanings (you may recognize them easily since we tend to have certain meanings attached to specific colors):

Red- love, passion, life, fierceness, power

Orange- warmth, the Sun, positivity, energy, creativity, optimisim

Yellow- brightness, warmth, success, the Sun, wealth

Green- prosperity, health, nature, harmony, balance, relaxation

Blue- tranquility, peace, relaxation, calm, rest

Violet/Purple- intuition, magic, power, the Moon, enchantment, spirit, imagination, dreams

Pink- romance, love, peace within (mind and body), sweetness, kindness, beauty, emotional healing, compassion

White- purity, magic, positivity, goodness, the Moon, freshness, hope, spirit, clarity

Black- warding off negativity, mystery, grief, power

Brown- warmth, nature, being genuine and honest, comfort

Grey- helpfulness, knowledge, wisdom, security, sadness, conservative, neutral, balance

Of course, as individuals we may also have our own personal interpretations and meanings of colors. For example, I consider green a much more positive and happy color than yellow. So take this as it is- a simplified guide- and feel free to go with what you feel is right.

The goal is to use the symbolism of colors to your advantage. Pick a color that symbolizes something you need, desire, or want to achieve. Dress in that color. Paint your nails different shades of the color. Use that color of sticky post-it notes and write with a pen that has that color ink. Surround yourself with a certain color and you also surround yourself with that color’s meanings and symbols. Use different colors to remind you of or help you obtain something. Test it out for a week or so and hopefully you’ll see a difference in your life.

Much love and good vibes,

Violet XO