Hello, loves. We’ve all had bad things happen to us. We are let down by loved ones, become hindered by an unexpected obstacle, we fail in achieving one our greatly desired goals. It can seriously damage your confidence in yourself and your dreams. You may think, Did I make the wrong choice? Was I mistaken in thinking I could trust myself/that person? Am I not meant to be successful and happy? Will my dreams ever come true?
Talk about low morale.
In simple terms, failure SUCKS. It sucks when things don’t go the way we planned or hoped. And if we’re not careful enough, we can let our egos rule over us and we may vow to never try whatever we did again. That’s how people don’t achieve their dreams, friend. If you really want that job, that success, that whatever-it-is that you want, you need to work for it. You need to work for it hard. Your bruised ego might throw doubts and darts of negativity at you but don’t you dare give up on your goals; don’t fucking give up on your happiness. You need to brush yourself off, give yourself a pep talk, and bounce back into it.
For example, I did not get the job at the library. It is very disheartening for me- I thought it was something in the bag. It was perfection and would have made me very happy. Unfortunately, the Universe decided I wouldn’t have that lovely position. And believe me, it makes me not want to try- what if I get rejected from every job that I truly want? I’m scared of being miserable in a shitty job that will lead me to be a shitty person. I’m not exactly happy at the moment.
But I want to be happy. I want my happiness and a secure future that I will love so I will get back up. I’m going to search for more similar jobs with schedules that will work with mine at school. I will apply for all those jobs that fit my needs/wants best. I will show up to any interview- even those terrifying phone call interviews- and pretend I am a damn confident and sociable person who is 110% up for the job, even though it will be scary for me. I’ll probably fail again, and maybe even a third time. But worrying won’t help; it only hurts.
Give yourself the proper time to mourn whatever loss you have suffered, then focus on positivity, get up, and keep on fighting the good fight. Maybe you’re just one more failure closer to achieving your true dreams and a happy life. Stay strong.
Don’t you dare give up.